The Double-Edged Sword of Attraction

Attraction gets you there but intention keeps you there; and that's where we're beginning this penned entry in the diary of a progressive heart.

One of the most popular new thought philosophies in our age has been that of the "Law of Attraction." Narrowed down, this line of thought is rooted in the notion of thoughts determining one's reality, whether positive or negative. It has been noted that there is quite the strong connection between thoughts and actions which create one's identity. Therefore, deduced, we can state that thoughts are effectual in creating a person's identity which determines their encounters, inclusive of their experiences with people.

Now, this stands as holding truth, and in one of Pastor Mike Todd’s teachings, he speaks about how our minds are spiritual wombs, which registers them as sites for construction of life’s ordeals.

With this in mind, I can safely assume that many have joined me on the train of concluding that all required based on this thesis, is for one to work on their construction site, which is the mind. We’ve probably said the following, “If I work on my mind, then my actions will get in line. I’ll attract people and experiences which are reflective of my vision and the flow will be one of ease from there on because that which I would have drawn towards me, will be already aware of the end goal.” Now this is in no way to say that the philosophy suggests as such, but rather to dissect some latent conceptions that we may carry along the way.

Strolls and sprints in the garden of this lady called Life have been drawing my attention to the parallel truth that runs simultaneously with the Law of Attraction; and this has been essential in alleviating some of the self-imposed pressures unconsciously held. The Law of Attraction is such a paradoxical concept as, although it brings forth something to life or some people into our lives, it is not self ~sustained nor does it come with a guaranteed manual on the unfolding of events. This would mean that the investments made in attraction are not the same ones required in sustainment.

Upon realisation and digestion of this, it probably comes as a blow to us as it places somewhat an invisible barricade to the degree of our influence on the outcome of our lives. One would assume that this should be pleasing because it rids us of the weight of having to orchestrate or at a greater degree, manufacture it all ;but not for our self-sufficient generation. It calls us to some sort of surrender which according to many, is a cuss word.

Picture this, in relationships of any form, one can captivate a partner towards them but it takes stepping out in intentionality to create viable longevity. So this basically means that you can be pruned to perfection in a bid to allure that which best reflects your ideals, but, the onus is still upon the other party to take complementary steps. With opportunities, the door may very well open as you have prepared room to welcome it. Nevertheless, acts of nurturing this shot need to still be taken so as to see to its full manifestation as is desired. Shocker, I know!

This is not to create dread or despair as it pertains to cultivating the ground on which what you desire can grow on. Not in the least.

The intent is to address the shame that can be bore from un-forecasted outcomes. Sequels never before anticipated have the power to reveal the extent of the security in our lure.

When the relationships that we poured into take a different shape from the conceived image, there is a possibility of us internalising this as rejection. And if it were rejection alone then maybe we would process it better, But, there’s also humiliation at having attracted something that has ultimately caused us pain. Questions like, “What is it in me that ropes pain towards me” tend to encircle one’s mind and the answer is usually a very vague and unsupported, “Me,” which usually means that you’re crediting the hurt to your entire existence. You forget the good that lay within this experience, probably for a solid time, before the road got bumpy. And that my friend, kills hope.

Instead of trying to assess where it is we could have veered off in our path, we start to believe that the whole journey was a mistake. 'I was never meant to launch this or tread in these waters,’ are some of the statements we begin to utter, suggesting that what we initially believed in was imaginary or the engine we had was a counterfeit version. I’ll have you know this dear Progressive heart, that is just not true.

Now bringing it back to home, you’re the vehicle. Deserving to boldly endeavour on those journeys, as boot quaking as they may be. Deserving to be loved and treated with compassion. Deserving to stand on those stages and operate in those spaces. Deserving to be prioritised. Basically, all the things a car would appreciate. Therefore, we need to keep in tune with the needs of the vehicle at certain parts of the journey; lest we crash and burn.

So, from my progressive to yours, remember: